Friday, February 7, 2014


Having a Valentine's Day party? St. Valentine's Day is a very commercial holiday that has an extremely tenuous connection to the church with the many different references to a St. Valentine throughout the ages. In our society we have become obsessed with romantic love and sex to the point where it is literally unreal. Both men and women are inundated with society's expectations of who they should be to their partners and how their personal relationships should look to the world. The message kids get from society about sex is that it has nothing to do with one special relationship with another person. It's just something else to do on a Friday night. It has nothing to do with the gift God gave us that makes our relationship with one special partner a very special relationship between two people and God.

If you're going to have a Valentine's Day party, instead of putting little pink and red hearts all over the place and walking around giving cards and flowers to people you're supposed to show your love to every day of the week or pushing romance on teenagers, why not make it a special day to talk about God's plan for intimate love? It can be hard to bring up these issues so I created THE LOVE QUIZ. Kids have many questions about love and relationships that they are afraid to ask. I have also included answers in case leaders need a jumping off place though my answers are certainly not the only or the most correct answers.

Here are are few suggestions:

  • Do it as a game show. Have groups or teams work together on the answers and see what they come up with.
  • Teenagers don't like to open up about a lot of this with their parents around. DO NOT fall into the mistake of thinking they do or will. They will say what their parent wants to hear.
  • Have an anonymous question jar out so that kids can add questions before or during the discussion.
  • Feel free to talk openly about the differences between men and women with humor. It can ease the tension.
  • Let kids bring up ANYTHING. Don't be afraid to discuss their real concerns.
  • Don't just tell them what to think. DISCUSS why one viewpoint might be smarter than another.
  • Press students for reasons why they believe what they do about sex and relationships.

The world is not going to stop telling them lies about sex and relationships. Start telling them the truth!

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